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May 2014


Dear fellow coaches,


As once again I look out the window, one word comes to mind: resilience. For all of us that have gone through this long, long season of everything but the combination of warm and dry, it is a certain sense of resilience, probably mixed with some humor, that carries us through. Somewhere on this planet it is, indeed, spring. For more than 3 days in a row.


That takes me back to the word resilience. I love the sound of it. How it unfolds as I say it, and how I can feel the strength of that one word spread through my body. So this month, I would like to explore this a little further.


Once again, I used the opportunity and asked my friends and fellow coaches at the Royal Oak Coach Café, "What is the first thing that comes to mind when your hear the word resilience?" Here are some of the answers:


  • Not backing away in the face of adversity
  • Landing on your feet
  • Getting up after you fall
  • Being able to work the system
  • Looking for the good and the gift in a tough situation
  • And, just as Winston Churchill said, "Never, never, never give up."

What makes people resilient? Are they naturally resilient? Can it be learned?

One characteristic of resilience is the ability to keep a certain cool while coping with setbacks. It is the ability to utilize skills and strengths in solving problems or dealing with issues and challenges. It doesn't mean that there is less stress or that there are fewer difficulties in life. The difference is the way in which these difficulties are handled. Some people do this naturally. For others, there are ways to become more resilient.


In my research, I came across several articles on resilience in general, how to become more resilient, and the habits of resilient people. Here are a few things I found helpful:


  • Practice awareness; be aware of a situation and the effect it has on you.
  • Practice acceptance, not giving up but rather trusting the emotions and "being ok" with them.
  • Practice self-care; take "me-time" daily to exercise, meditate, or any commitment to spend time with yourself.
  • Find a sense of purpose and establish goals that fit.
  • Develop a strong social network. There is nothing like the feeling of a warm jacket of support that your friends can give you.
  • Build strong beliefs around capabilities and abilities. Building these strengths build self-esteem that will carry one through.
  • Change perspective... is there a bigger picture to be seen? Or is something happening for you rather than to you? It there another side to the story?
  • Breathe. Allow for a moment to disconnect. Maybe that can give way to waiting for what is right, rather than what you want right now. Or as D. Ernest Green said: "Think before you speak. Words can get you into trouble much easier than they can get you out of it."
  • It is ok to not have all the answers right now. Some things will find themselves in the time they need to be found.
  • Focus on what is right or good rather than on what is wrong or bad...because where the attention goes, that is where the energy flows.

What helps me is the belief that actions I take can affect the outcome, and that I really don't have to have it all figured out right away. I can take it to my yoga mat. I can breathe, disconnect, and know it will find itself in the end. Sometimes I laugh it off, and sometimes I prefer to be happy and accept not being right. A great question a wonderful friend and fellow coach asks is, "What is the lesson to be learned in this?" A deeper understanding of the change I can make, can make a change. My favorite Japanese proverb teaches me to "Fall down seven times, stand up eight."


How does resilience show up in your personal life, in your work, and in your coaching? How does it show up with your clients? Please feel free to share your thoughts on our ICF Michigan Facebook page!


In its unwavering drive to be the go-to place for coaches, anyone on the journey to becoming a coach, or anyone seeking a coach, ICF Michigan is there with ample opportunities to connect, share, learn and grow. See below for updates on our monthly Coach Cafés around the state, our great TeleClasses, Core Competency Calls, and our brand new Scholarship Program.


Don't forget: the ICF Global Conference - North America Midwest is in Cleveland next month and only a few spots are left! Will I see you there?


Until next time, breathe... Warm and dry, for more than 3 days, will come.


Much energy,



Susanne Cordes-Hoelterhoff

2014 ICF Michigan President

(248) 225-9032



Cleveland Rocks! ICF Global North America Midwest Conference

Under the Motto "Coaching Rocks" we will be rocking Cleveland, OH from June 19-21, 2014!  Register today for the only ICF Global Conference in North America as there only a few spots left!  Final day to register is June 5th at the strike of midnight!  There are lots of opportunities to be a part of this great event, click here for more information.

Save the date!
Mark your calendars for the second annual ICF Michigan Statewide Forum on Thursday, October 23rd, 2014 in Okemos. This promises to be another fantastic event by Michigan Coaches for Michigan Coaches. Stay tuned for more information to follow!


ICF Global 2014 Europe Conference

In September of this year the ICF will host the ICF Global Conference for Europe in beautiful Malmö, Sweden, right next door to beautiful Copenhagen, Denmark. (I have been to both, yes, they are beautiful.)  Join our colleagues in Europe for 3 days packed with great keynote speakers and breakout sessions under the theme of "Courage to Create Change - Coaching for a sustainable future." See here for more information on the conference and special deals during International Coaching week ending May 25th.


ICF Michigan Announces Scholarship Program
In a demonstration of ongoing commitment to
the coaching community, ICF Michigan is launching a new scholarship program for current or prospective ICF Michigan coaches. The scholarship program is designed to support and promote the highest standards of professional coaching in Michigan and serve our vibrant community where coaches connect, learn, grow, and succeed to best serve our clients.

Scholarships will cover the membership fee in part or in full and are available to individuals who are studying to become a coach or continuing their coach education. Applicants must be actively involved in current ICF or ICF Michigan Programs, events, or committees and be willing to support the ICF Michigan mission, vision, values, and community. Please see the ICF Michigan website  for more information about this exciting new opportunity!

Volunteers wanted!

Want to grow your network, apply your skills in fun new ways AND make a difference?  Plug into exciting new projects now underway at ICF Michigan.  Interested in learning more?  Contact Sandy Marshall at



May 28th Core Competency Teleclass

Topic: "Communicating Effectively:  Active Listening"

Click here to register

June 4th Teleclass with Dr. Laura Belsten

Topic: "Expand Your Coaching Business by Coaching Social + Emotional Intelligence"
Click here to register

June 25th Experienced Coaches' Bi-Monthly Teleforum
Mark you calendar for 400 pm ET. 
More info coming soon!



Please don't hesitate to contact our dedicated Board members with questions, observations or suggestions.


Barb Grigsby, Past President; Website


Rebecca Kraus, Vice President; Education & Development

Lori Kerlin
, Education & Development (Chair)


Jan Martinez, Education & Development

Sandy Marshall
, Outreach & Volunteers


Lisa Bradley-Mitchell, Sponsorship


Kathy Munoz, Marketing & Branding


Mary Selzer, Treasurer 

Deb Voyt
, Membership & Affiliations 

Kathy Vlietstra
, Administrator


Hurry! New members can join ICF Michigan at a 15% discount during
this week only.

Want to learn more or sign-up? Contact Kathy at support@icfmichigan.org



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